Freedom and the Single Girl

Confused single girl, that is!

Today I attended a pretty inspirational seminar for ministry leadership. It was powerful for me for many reasons, but mostly because I have been on what’s called the “decline” in my faith. I was feeling burnt out, and angry that now that I am “free”, I still am being so-called “held back” in my living because I am a Christian. I knew I was supposed to be one person, and I felt pulled to be another, and the tug of war resulted in me turning away from being a Christian in my actions. I justified this by telling myself and God that this was only temporary. I was trying on hats and seeing how they fit. And while it felt freeing to do anything I wanted, I still felt miserable and lost.

I stopped going to church and any religious activities during this “vacation”. To attend these things would have multiplied the guilt tenfold. I felt like a hypocrite at church, and stopped feeling the passion. And you know what happened during this time? I changed. I became pessimistic. My mouth became dirty. I had an angry demeanor. I wasn’t as polite as I used to be. Everything looked a little more bleak. A lot of this I didn’t even notice until my mom pointed it out to me this morning. Even though my family does not attend church with me, she was pleased to know I was going to this seminar today because of how negative I’ve been lately.

Being there was inspiring. We read the story about David and Goliath, but focused on the characteristics of Saul and David. And we were to look for things about us we saw. I saw negatives about me. Many negatives. I am not patient in the Lord’s time, constantly wanting to do things in my time. This is in relationships I’ve had, and in my life direction in general. My impatience results in me being knocked back down and having to start all over again, sometimes creating even more work for myself than I began with. I am focusing on the wrong priorities. I have been obeying the world instead of the Lord. A big red flag was on what my reactive response is. I have NONE. I think I’ve become too callous and unfeeling. Sometimes I have even felt like emotions aren’t real, or even attention seeking. What?!? How many times have I been stroked by some caring friend in my time of need? I cannot recall too many times recently that I have done the same for someone else. This was a hard *gulp* on my part, and made me feel pretty ashamed.

One thing that I really received an epiphany on was how I even got to be there at that seminar today. Someone had taken notice of my absences and called me yesterday. And even though I informed this person that I wasn’t going, she made it eventually impossible to not go by curing all the reasons that might have prevented my presence. I finally promised her I would go. This morning, I dreaded my decision, and even came a little late. But once everything started, I felt that I was in the right place.

My epiphany is, there are many people besides me who are struggling with their walk. The very first sign is neglecting their church and/or homegroup life. Have I noticed anyone at my own church or homegroups suddenly not going? Sure I have. Have I ever just called that person when I noticed their absence? No. I have not. There are some people out there that have turned away from the church in their confusing walk, saw that nobody even cared, and just kept on walking away towards a life without God. And I had the power to change that. We all do. And it’s as simple as a phone call and a “hey, I missed you the other day. How’s it going?” And then LISTENING to them.

Our walk with Christ is only as meaningful as what we put into it. It is not an easy ride. It is not even comfortable sometimes. But sometimes when we leap way out of our comfort zone, it’s when we feel the most rewards. I am climbing out of my decline, and sweeping my path. But this shake-up was just what I needed, to feel something horrible that I can take with me and create something positive out of. Now I am truly free.

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4 thoughts on “Freedom and the Single Girl

  1. crissi, it was so good to see you this morning. It’s so tough when there are so many services at church. I think about you a lot but I’ve assumed that you’ve been at the “other” service. I’m sorry that I haven’t kept in touch with you. Now I know, though, that if I don’t see you, I WILL CALL. You can consider yourself accountable! Homegroup at my house doesn’t restart until August. I hope you can come. Hey, we should get together some time. Do you ever have mornings free?

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  2. interesting blog, i love your transparency and just saying it how you feel, without worrying about what others would think… you would be interesting to talk to about the whole christianity thing… do you read christian books?scott jacksonscottjackson.blogspot.com

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  3. Awesome, I’m glad you came! That’s is just a great reminder that if people suddenly start to fade away from church etc, we just need to give them a call to let them know they’re missed. 🙂And I can totally emphasize on the “getting burnt out, angry” etc to some degree. But I find that if I just keep on going to church and church functions it helps in the end. Ay yi yi. Word to my confused single sister!

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